Bargaining whit nicotine
Bargaining can be with our particular nicotine delivery device, with us, loved ones or even our higher power. Its aim is the impossible feat of letting go, without letting go. If allowed, the emotional conflict of wanting to say “hello,” while saying “goodbye,” can easily culminate in relapse. “Just one,” “just once” can easily evolve into “this is just too hard,” “too long,” “things are getting worse not better,” “this just isn’t the right time to stop!”
Although a large portion of this book is about bargaining, the book itself will provide an abundance of fuel for the bargaining mind. Every user and every recovery are different. Sharing “averages” and “norms” will naturally generate tons of ammunition for those whose dependency or recovery traits are just beyond “average.” Key to navigating conflicted feelings is in demanding honesty while keeping our primary recovery motivations vibrant and strong.
They are the wind beneath our wings. Allowing freedom’s desire to die invites destructive and intellectually dishonest deals to be made. Instead of buying into relapse, remember, as long as 100% of the planet’s nicotine remains on the outside it’s impossible to fail. But what happens to a grieving mind once it realizes that it can’t arrest its dependency while enabling it too?
Although a large portion of this book is about bargaining, the book itself will provide an abundance of fuel for the bargaining mind. Every user and every recovery are different. Sharing “averages” and “norms” will naturally generate tons of ammunition for those whose dependency or recovery traits are just beyond “average.” Key to navigating conflicted feelings is in demanding honesty while keeping our primary recovery motivations vibrant and strong.
They are the wind beneath our wings. Allowing freedom’s desire to die invites destructive and intellectually dishonest deals to be made. Instead of buying into relapse, remember, as long as 100% of the planet’s nicotine remains on the outside it’s impossible to fail. But what happens to a grieving mind once it realizes that it can’t arrest its dependency while enabling it too?